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How To Get Away With Parenting

Malaika Dower

Where I ask all the questions I probably should have asked before I had a kid.

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Dec 3, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I have a long chat. And, I reveal to him that I'm not going to get our daughter a Christmas gift this year. But, Santa might get her something.   -The book I'm currently reading is How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen. -I found wrapping paper with a black Santa called Clarence Claus from Greentop Gifts.  www.htgawp.com  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  @htgawp
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Nov 5, 2017 Malaika Dower
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Deep down, I'm a typical Guyanese mother. What does that mean? My friend Nyoka Acevedo and I break it down in this episode. She's a committed educator and passionate Restorative Justice advocate. And, Nyoka is a Puerto Rican mother trying to sift through a lot of historical b******t that weighs us down. This episode is full of questions. Not a lot of answers. And, a great tip at the end about how to teach your toddler not to scream in your face when they want your attention. 
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Oct 31, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I watch entirely too many YouTube daily vlogs and thus got it into my head that I could do a daily podcast about parenting. So, in this episode I pop in every few days to update you on the day to day joys and struggles of respectfully parenting a toddler. We had a HUGE event happen during this week that I had to document. My husband even makes and appearance! As usual, I ask a lot of questions to all the listeners so I don't feel so alone. So, let me know what you think!
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Oct 15, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I sit down and have a long chat with my new friends Pastaveia and Sean from EcoConsciousLifestyle! They're expecting their first baby and plan to maintain their minimalist lifestyle. I had questions! They are also interested in respectful parenting. I had answers! We also got in to a much needed discussion about how both of these life choices have a distinct impact on us as black parents. Stay tuned to the end where I regale them with my positive birth story in an effort to take the fear out of...
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Aug 20, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I don't even know where to begin when it come to saving up for my kid's college education. Should we try to save for all 4 years or just a set amount and supplement the rest with scholarships and grants? Is our kid doomed to a life of debt if she takes out loans? What if she doesn't even want to go to college? I asked Linda Stern, brilliant personal finance journalist, and one of my best friends' mom, all these questions and more. Lots of helpful tips that put mind at ease.
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Jul 16, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I answer some questions about trying to teach Lucy Spanish, parenting while tired, and what to do when your kid won't let you read to them. Lucy makes several appearances in this episode which highlights the fact that we're clearly not parenting experts.   Show notes:   Janet Lansbury links, again: podcast and audiobooks Here's the article I mention about raising a truly bilingual child: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/10/well/family/raising-a-truly-bilingual-child.html  ...
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Jul 2, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I can't believe it's already time for us to start thinking about preschool. My kid only just turned 2! Am I late to the search party?Should toddlers be doing "STEM" work? How many kids should be in the classroom? I sat down with my kid's best friend's mom, and my new pal, Josephine Saunders, to get some tips about the preschool process. Josephine's a school teacher and has put one other kid through preschool. So I wanted to pick her brain.    Website me:  www.htgawp.com  Email...
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Jun 25, 2017 Malaika Dower
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It's been so long! My husband and I are just shooting the breeze about life and how hard it is to clean our house. Also, neighbor drama! And more, yes, MORE toddler tantrums. Website me:  www.htgawp.com  Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130  
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May 28, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I've been struggling between the trying to instill empathy and kindness in my daughter and not trying impose strict manners and politeness rules on her. I'm walking the line between respectful parenting and respectability politics. But, I know there has got to an appropriate balance. So, I called in my favorite parenting podcaster, Melitsa Avila. She gives me 10 Social Life Skills that can help all of us guide our kids as they navigate social interactions. We talk about everything from helping...
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May 14, 2017 Malaika Dower
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It's official, we have a 2 year old! My husband and I are astounded that we somehow have a kept our daughter alive and happy for 2 years now. We talk about what it's been like so far and what we hope the future will bring with a real deal toddler.     Website me:  www.htgawp.com   Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130  
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May 7, 2017 Malaika Dower
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We all want our kids to be healthy eaters. But, like most parenting stuff, it's so haaaard! Especially when we're not exactly leaders in the healthy eating realm. But, is it possible to transition your kid from eating only nuggets and fries to gobbling up spinach and quinoa? I asked Malika Pham how she made the switch with her two little ones. We also chat about how her son's autism diagnosis helped her to get more intentional and creative with how she feeds her family.   You can find Malika...
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Apr 30, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I talk to a renowned couples therapist about marriage and personal growth while parenting. The wonderful Esther Boykin, LMFT weighs in on how to support connection between partners and within the entire family. We also talk about being naked around our kids and how to handle parenting disagreements without resentment. She also tells us the 2 most important elements that will help us be better partners and better parents. Hint: it's all about working on ourselves first.   S h o...
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Apr 23, 2017 Malaika Dower
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Just me, on my own, again. But, I think I've had a breakthrough about potty training. It's a pretty simple plan that I'm going to be super easy breezy about and not at all worry that I'm doing it wrong. But, just in case I read about 16 parenting articles on the subject. Here are a few of them: I went to my parenting oracle Janet Lansbury for some tips: http://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/3-reasons-kids-dont-need-toilet-training-and-what-to-do-instead/   Toilet Training In One Simple Step...
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Apr 16, 2017 Malaika Dower
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No guest this week so I asked my daughter to be on the podcast with me. But, she only lasted for a couple of minutes. She's got places to be, apparently. So, I give a short recap of our week and some of the stuff I've been thinking about lately when it comes to parenting. Specifically, when and why should a toddler stop using a pacifier. And, more potty training angst.   Website me:  www.htgawp.com  Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review...
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Apr 9, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My pal Amanda is back with me for this episode. We have a much needed rant about dealing with toddlers. We also do some pretty deep work about our efforts to parent differently than we were parented. Sometimes that means looking at some of the traumatic experiences we had as children and then undoing that mindset so that we don't impose it on our children. Like it said, it gets deep. Show Notes: Spare the Kids: Why Whupping Children Won't Save Black America by Stacey Patton   Friend in my head...
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Apr 2, 2017 Malaika Dower
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Our daughter joins my husband and me on this episode. We talk about some of the topics HTGAWP listeners have said they'd like to hear us talk about.  Here are some of the linkable things I mentioned in this episode: Raising Playful Tots podcast by Melitsa Avila Jen's episode about picky toddlers: Your Parenting Mojo--It's not about the broccoli   Website me:  www.htgawp.com   Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review...
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Mar 26, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My daughter has been having A LOT of...emotional outbursts, shall we say. I know it's because she's frustrated or overwhelmed or just feeling out of sorts. But, how can I help her? And also, how can I get ok with her feelings? I asked Kelley Carboni-Woods to teach me her wise ways. She's an author, yoga instructor, mother of 2 tots, a Zen Master (my words, not hers) and a self-described recovering yeller. She's got a ton of great advice about everything from cleansing breaths to daily...
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Mar 19, 2017 Malaika Dower
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Man, we had a sweet window of about 4 weeks when my daughter would go straight to sleep at 7pm and then not make a peep until about 6am. Now bedtime is all over the place and we're in and out of her room doing a dog and pony show just to get her to lay down and chill for a few hours. My friend Vanessa Johnson was also having a crisis trying to teach her baby how to sleep. So she hired an expert to help. In this episode I grill Vanessa for all the secrets that this wise woman taught her....
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Mar 12, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I convinced my husband to come back on the podcast for a special episode about how our daughter keeps rejecting him. I hope she doesn't hate us when she grows up. Please comment on the website if you have any advice or ideas for us. Website me: www.htgawp.com  Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130
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Mar 5, 2017 Malaika Dower
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As a somewhat reluctant stay-at-home mom I've been dragging my feet when it comes to meal planning and general household management. So I recruited Mimi from Unlikely Martha to help me get it together. She's got sooo much wisdom to share. But, don't get it twisted! She'll be the first person to tell you that she's not perfect either. I think that's why so many folks love her. We chat about everything from giving our children plenty of affection and tenderness to "time chunking"...
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Feb 26, 2017 Malaika Dower
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My friend Amanda joins me to talk about how neither of us know how to properly potty train our toddlers. We also chat about her life and her recent move from Japan to the U.S.A.    Amanda's YouTube channel is great! Check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6FHjH9pBMYE-wNtzin9TLA   Website me:  www.htgawp.com  Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130
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Feb 19, 2017 Malaika Dower
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This episode is the second half of my conversation with Bree Colingo. It's all over the place. And, it's fun!   Website me: www.htgawp.com  Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130
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Feb 5, 2017 Malaika Dower
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I had a long talk with my friend Bree Colingo last night after she texted me in a panic. Her son said something to her that I've feared my daughter might say to me one day: "I wish I was white." I asked Bree if she would come on the podcast and talk to me a bit about how she reacted and her feeling about the whole event. The conversation got deep. I mentioned an organization called SURJ in this episode but I couldn't remember what the acronym stood for. It's Showing Up for Racial...
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Jan 8, 2017 Malaika Dower
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We take a look at some of the things we'd like to accomplish, not just in 2017, but for our lifetime. My husband and I have another serious conversation about respectful parenting and how it intersects with race and gender. Why isn't anyone else talking about this? And, if they are, where can I find them?   Website me: www.htgawp.com Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130  
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Dec 25, 2016 Malaika Dower
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The deeper I get into this parenting thing the more I want to do things differently than I ever dreamed. Millions of people are opting out of traditional school for their children and entering the world of homeschooling. Or, they are taking the plunge and unschooling all together. But is it right for me and my kid? On this episode I sit down with fellow parenting podcaster and, future unschooler, Jen Lumanlan. We discuss a lot of the research she's come across regarding this new trend and why...
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Dec 19, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I decided we wanted to go on the respectful parenting journey with our daughter since before she was born. And it was all pretty easy to do when she was a newborn and then an infant. But now that she's a toddler we're on the front lines! Our beliefs about parenting are getting tested every day by our curious and strong willed little kid. So, on this episode, we discuss how we think we're doing with respectful parenting and also what areas need some work. Show notes are back!  ...
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Dec 11, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My friend Sonnett Swaby-Brizan joins me again to discuss all things Christmas.    Website me: www.htgawp.com   Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com    Tweet me: @htgawp   Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130  
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Dec 4, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My friend Sonnett Swaby-Brizan and I talk about the end of breastfeeding. I'm all done but Sonnett is still going strong after 2 years. We also have a good old catch up session and ponder over why all stay at home moms go to Target every damn day.  Website me: www.htgawp.com Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130      
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Nov 6, 2016 Malaika Dower
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This week my husband check in with each other and I do a recap of all the stuff we have questions about. Weaning! Toddler discipline! Colds! Potty Training! Biting! I also put out a call to anyone who would like to discuss other topics I'm curious about. Homeschooling and Adoption, to name a couple. Let's chat! Website me: www.htgawp.com Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130
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Oct 30, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I'm still feeling kind of lost without my dad. So, I asked my friend Abby Ejigu to sit down with me to talk about how she coped with the sudden death of her father almost 11 years ago. We chat about the immigrant dad experience and also what it really means to be "the man of the house." Spoiler: it involves a lot of domestic duties. This was a really healing and hopeful conversation. Abby's a blessing to the world and she's a DOULA!  www.absdoula.com www.facebook.com/AbyssiniaBirth...
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Oct 9, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My father died very suddenly last week. I am still in shock. He was not only a wonderful father to me and my siblings but he was also one of my best friends. I don't know how I'm going to go on without him.    Website me: www.htgawp.com Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Rate and review me: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130
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Oct 2, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I think it's important for me to cultivate my own interests, outside of parenting, in order to model the wholeness that I'd like my daughter to have. I spoke with my friend Christina Chung AKA Chungtech about maintaining an active career as a DJ. Christina really teaches her daughter by example that parents are people too. Her husband Arjuna Sayyed also joins us for a bit of chat.    Show Notes: *Christina just released a fantastic new mixtape. Play it when you want to get...
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Sep 26, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I've been worrying about leaving a spiritual hole in my daughter's life. I grew up a practicing and confirmed Episcopalian and enjoyed my church experience. But, I stopped believing in God sometime around college. Now that I have a daughter, and a marriage to maintain, I find myself yearning for the ritual and fortification of a faith based life. Yet I'm still questioning. So, I asked my dear old friend Angelica Teaupa to talk to me about her journey with religion and faith. I grilled her all...
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Sep 5, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Today I'm answering some of the questions listeners have sent in. Once again, I've called on my trusty assistant, and life partner, to help me delve into the discussion. We answer a question that's been a sore spot in our relationship for a long time. We also talk about how we navigated life after my first pregnancy ended. And, we discuss baby names!  No show notes again. Just more questions for you: *How do you divide household duties with your partner? *Do your children have chores? How does...
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Aug 28, 2016 Malaika Dower
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We moved in to our new house in Oakland this week. So, my husband is back on the podcast with me to talk about how we're adjusting. We dive deep into the realness of moving across the country. No furniture! No money! No job! No sleep! But, despite all the stress we're so happy we moved.   Instead of Show Notes this week, I'm going to ask you guys some questions. Please help me find the answers:   Why does daycare end so early? How do you work full-time and pick up your kid at 5:00pm?   What...
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Aug 21, 2016 Malaika Dower
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We just made the big move from New York to California. Since our stuff is not here yet we've been staying with my parents for a few days. It's been great! My dad agreed to sit down with me and tell me all his parenting secrets. You're going to hear the word "responsibility" about a million times in this episode. No show notes this week. My life is too hectic to go hunting for links right now.   Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Tweet me: @htgawp Website me:  www.htgawp.com ...
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Aug 14, 2016 Malaika Dower
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We have to find a new doctor for our daughter when we move to California. But how can we be sure we're all on the same page about patient care practices? Recently, we had a pretty eye opening experience during a doctor visit. Now we know what we don't want.    Show Notes:   Some doctors think black people don't feel pain https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2016/04/04/do-blacks-feel-less-pain-than-whites-their-doctors-may-think-so/   This guide by the American Association...
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Aug 7, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I have a zero screen time policy for our daughter. This decision was based on a lot of compelling evidence about the negative affects TV and videos can have on early childhood brain development. But, when baby goes to bed...we are all about screen time for Mommy and Daddy! Are we total hypocrites? Is this going to bite us in the butt later? Will our daughter be an outcast because she's not keeping up with the Joneses of the screen world?     Show Notes:   American Academy...
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Jul 31, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I got two of the coolest chicks in podcastland to sit down and chat with me this week. Lina and Estephanie from the Bag Ladies podcast came by to talk about growing up in the Bronx, their path to Afro-Latinx feminism and they also gave me tips on how to make my daughter feel seen, heard, and appreciated. They really did help me, help them, help me.   Show Notes:   I discovered the Bag Ladies podcast on the greatest podcast listing ever, Podcasts In Color: http://podcastsincolor.com/  ...
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Jul 24, 2016 Malaika Dower
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What if your kid gets sick? Like really, really, really sick? My friend Amber Drea came in to talk to me about what's been going on with her son. He's been dealing with major health problems since birth and now he's  on the brink of recovery. She and her husband are still coping with the reality of having a sick kid while also maintaining an optimistic and humorous outlook. It's a true balancing act.   Show notes: Superstar doula, Kenya Fairley, from Episode 7 wrote a book about trauma...
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Jul 17, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Who gets my stuff when I die? Can I make my friend raise my kid if my husband and I are both dead? I'm kind of obsessing about death lately so I asked my friend, and lawyer, Leslie Sultan to tell me everything she knows about making a will. I make a lot of jokes along the way because talking about death makes me nervous. After all the death chat my husband comes back to talk about a life update. See what I did there? Life after death...anyway. Find out what we're most excited about with our...
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Jul 10, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My husband is back again! This time we have an intense conversation about racism and white privilege in the wake of the most recent police shootings. We also discuss how being in an interracial marriage affects the way we communicate with each other about the reality of racism. What are we going to tell our daughter about the world she's growing up in? Let me how your family is dealing with racism. I'd like to compare notes. Show Notes: There is a white privilege...
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Jun 26, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My husband and I have made a big decision that will change our family's trajectory. So I brought him on the podcast to discuss why we're doing what we're doing. And, we ask the listeners what decisions they have made with the hope of making a better life for their family. Let us know what you think: Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Website me (write a comment!): www.htgawp.com  Tweet me: @htgawp  
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Jun 19, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I plan to live forever. But, just in case I don't, I want my kid to have something to put in her pocket when I'm gone. So, my husband and I need life insurance. My friend Aljerice Hasty walks me through the different types of life insurance policies out there and the steps to take to make sure we're covered. Then, my girlfriend Laura is back to bitch and moan with me for our "Wah, Wah, Wah" segment. This time we're complaining about birth control. It sucks!   Show Notes:   *You can...
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Jun 12, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Child molestation is a topic I’ve been worried about since the moment I found out I was pregnant. What if someone touches my kid? Can I legally murder a predator? Is it my fault? I asked Courtney Watson, MFTi to talk me down from my panic ledge by discussing how we can talk to our kids about their bodies and consent. We also get into ways to advocate for our children and heal with them and the entire family if a violation does occur. This will hopefully be the first of a series of episodes...
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Jun 5, 2016 Malaika Dower
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What does it actually take to make your kid bilingual. I ask my friends Junichi and Enjulee Ito how they are teaching their baby Japanese. Is it working? Can my husband and I teach our daughter Spanish even though we're not native speakers? I have a lot of questions. Show notes: -here are some tips on how to go about it (http://www.omniglot.com/language/articles/bilingualkids1.htm) -Junichi is a rad photographer (http://www.junichiito.com/) -Enjulee is a rad crafter...
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May 29, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My friends are having a baby! Derreck and Vanessa Johnson are my very special guests on this episode. They're expecting their first child any minute now. We sit down in their living room to chat about all their hopes, fears, and questions about giving birth and life after baby arrives.  Show notes: Hypnobirthing is not for weirdos. It helped me (and hopefully Vanessa) a lot. Derreck's twitter stardom really is a thing (@deephunk) He's also the unofficial Mayor of Brooklyn Summer. I met my...
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May 22, 2016 Malaika Dower
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A day in the life of any mom is busy, to say the least. But, what does it look when you have infant twins, an intense job, a loving husband and a serious exercise routine? My friend Daphne Palacio is here to give me a detailed account of her typical Wednesday. My eyes were bugging out in shock and amazement during most of this episode. Daphne is a force of nature! Show notes: Daphne talks about her life with PCOS. Learn more about it here   Babies can start taking swim classes as early as...
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May 15, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My guest, Whitney Dwyer, and I dip a toe into the deep water that is DISCIPLINE. I've been reading (and reading and reading) a ton of articles and a couple of books on the subject. Yet, I'm scared of how I'll react when my little girl starts pushing boundaries. Whitney's been a mom for a few years longer than me, so I have lots of questions and concerns. We both know we don't want to do things the way our parents did it. But what does that look like when your kid hits your with a wooden train...
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May 8, 2016 Malaika Dower
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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! My own Mommy is the special guest for this episode. I ask her to do a little self evaluation as a parent. Then I tell her what it was like to be parented by her. It gets deep. We also discuss how parenting has changed since I was a kid. What would she have done differently? What does she think of me as a mother? Honestly, this is my favorite episode ever!  Show notes: *My mom would like everyone to know where Guyana is. Here is a map. ______________________ Email me:...
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May 1, 2016 Malaika Dower
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How did a year go by so fast? I try to get some insight from my friend Nadia Hussain. Her son turned 1 last month and my daughter turns 1 this week. Then my husband and I reflect on the year gone by. Did we get away with parenting? We ask our baby girl what she has to say on the matter. Her answers will surprise you. Just kidding! She can't really talk! But she does say "mama" and "dada" throughout this episode a lot. Show notes: *Nadia's funny blog post *My baby does look...
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Apr 24, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Is it ok to make my baby a vegetarian if I'm not? I've been hesitant to feed my little one meat and sugary stuff because I want her to eat better than I do. Am I a hypocrite? Should I just share my burger and ice cream with her? Today I talk with my friend Sherisa de Groot about what she's feeding her vegetarian toddler. We also get into the different ways you can go about Baby Led Weaning. Sherisa is the founding editor of Raising Mothers and she's also the maker of a great P-I-Z-Z-A. Show...
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Apr 17, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Saskia Rumbelow-Lall is my guest this week. She's my longtime family friend and part of my Mommy Committee.  I ask her how she chose the right daycare for her two kids and what I should look for in a daycare for my baby. Then, it's the first installment of Tool Time! My husband and I talk about a book we've been reading: The Conscious Parent. This must be the manual they forgot to give us at the hospital. Just kidding! It's a great book that might help us not screw up our daughter too much....
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Apr 10, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My wonderful father-in-law sits down with me to talk about grandparenting.  I ask him if he's finished parenting now that his kid has a kid. Then he blows my mind with a revelation about my daughter, his son (her father) and another family member! We also talk about nature versus nurture and how fatherhood has changed in the past 30 years. Oh, and I do a call for guests at the end of the episode.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Let me know! Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me:...
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Apr 3, 2016 Malaika Dower
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On this episode my friend, and world class artist, Andrea Chung joins me on a Saturday night to talk about our kids. We cover everything from birth, postpartum depression, sippy cups, Youtube vlogs, and racism on the playground.  I don't know if I'm ready to deal with this yet.  But at least I have friends like Andrea that I can talk to about it. Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com
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Mar 27, 2016 Malaika Dower
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Expert alert! On this episode I talk with Kenya Fairley, a birth doula with a particular focus on trauma-informed birth support for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Isn't it great that she exists! We talk about what a doula does and does not do and how her work helps empower expectant mothers.  I share a bit about my great experience with my doula. Plus, Kenya hears all about the wolf that was chasing me while I was in labor.  Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me:...
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Mar 20, 2016 Malaika Dower
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My longtime friend Sonnet Swaby-Brizan helps me sift through all the thoughts in my brain about having a second baby.  She's firmly planted on one side of the fence. I'm sitting in the middle. I mention this article during our conversation that reminds us that every baby is different.  It's a crap shoot! Plus, it's the first installment of: Tell Me What You Know. A new segment where I mine information from someone who knows something I don't. My podcast Godmother and personal finance...
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Mar 13, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I confess to my friend, and musical phenom, Donwill, that I'm not that into music. Then we try to come up with a healthy musical menu for my kid's childhood.  Are Prince songs too racy for a baby? We also chat about his daughter's budding filmmaking career and her alter ego. We both just want our children to know that we'll be there for them, no matter what. Even if that means they want to turn into a dog or a donut. It's a fun conversation! Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet...
My friend and neighbor, Meiyin Wang, came downstairs to chat with me.  She's moving to California and also traveling to Singapore with her baby. Oh yeah, she's got to figure out how to get her dog across the country too.  And, she wows me with her incredible toe pick up skills. Plus, it's the first installment of the "Wah, Wah, Wah" series with my friend Laura Camins. We talk about everything we hate about pumping at work.  Spoiler alert: we hate pumping at work. Email me:...
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Feb 28, 2016 Malaika Dower
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I'm talking to my pal Adam Gerloff in this episode.  He's a father of two girls and he's a teacher in Brooklyn.  So, I grill him on everything from nose blowing tutorials to the difference between daycare, preschool and Pre-K. Plus he's a jujitsu master chopper! Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com   Tweet me: www.twitter.com/htgawp   Website me: www.htgawp.com  
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Feb 21, 2016 Malaika Dower
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In this episode I chat with my friend Dallia Herrtage about her experiences giving birth and becoming a new parent in the U.S.  We also get into the tough stuff about breastfeeding and formula feeding. And the cool stuff about my newest obsession, Baby Led Weening!  Racial constructs and racism in the U.S. and the U.K.  Is there any hope?  We think so.   Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com   Tweet me: www.twitter.com/htgawp   Website me: www.htgawp.com  
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Feb 14, 2016 Malaika Dower
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On this inaugural episode I sit down with my friend, and fellow new mom, Leslie Sultan. We talk about what our kids are into, what we are into, and the surprising parts about having a biracial baby.  Lots of awkwardness.